You dont want to keep the leash too tight. By allowing them to hang out together, supervised, you're not giving them a reason to sneak off. I was very much like your daughter when I was her age. My Daughter was a very responsible teenager and very mature, just as you say your daughter is. Even then, you could still be in trouble because of the age difference. I believe there are lots of boys like that still left in the world! Anyone notice that this guy is age 18-24 and looking for under 18 dating sites? Well thank you all so mush you have added a much needed side to this. I am trying to figure out if I need to accept that they are going to make out, and that this is normal, or should I try to be more intrusive.
Maybe have her invite him over to your house a few more times to get to know him so you feel more comfortable with her going out with him. I hope I was talking in circles, I hope this helps. If you don't give her some kind of freedom she might drop her good habits and pick up some bad ones to frustrate you. But I stress as long as your comfortable with it. I don't see any problem with allowing them to date and it sounds like you are doing all the right things, talking about sex, feelings and having open communication with your daughter.
Do I suggest looking for somebody that actually means something to you? I have 1 child daughter, 14 who is dating a 17 yr old boy too. Both our parents made our situation pleasant enough that we spent most weekend nights at home rather than out partying or parking in cars. My son started dating his grilfriend when he was 16 and she was 15. So I don't believe people when they say that teenagers are too young for real love. My parents accepted it because my husband was a charming 16 year old-athletic, outgoing, and my parents knew his mother who is a well respected journalist in our community. We couldn't date exclusively until we were 16, if we wanted to hang out with boys, becuase of coursee we had crushes and such, we would have to do it in a group setting.
I think it sounds like you are doing a great job, especially spending time with them together and getting to know him! Ultimately, my husband ate his words! I think that if your daughter is responsible enough, then yes, you should let her. If she is mature, it shouldn't matter. Ad long as there is no form of manipulation or sexual contact. Do you know this boy's parents? She knows I have high expectations of her and a lot of respect for her - as I hope she does of me. My advice for what it is worth, would be to allow her to see him, because it is my feeling that if you don't, she may be forced to find a way and maybe even lie to you about her plans in order to do so.
I don't have a teenager yet, but I teach high school, so I see this a lot! There are so many things you both need to learn, and are going through, that will be difficult to make it through together since you two are in separate areas in life. This may be getting a little too personal, but I do really want to help you. I think that you are doing the right thing. This was my first real boyfriend that I went out on dates with. It sounds like you have very reasonable expectations for the relationship, have good communication with your daughter, and so far there have been no problems. As for your husband, maybe try to include him in such a way that he feels part of the learning process with your daughter.
Good luck to you and you can email me anytime I can relate to your situation. Your relationship sounds very solid. Your daughter doesn't have to do this because you are by her side. When teens have numerous people and activities that raise them up, they are quicker to recognize a relationship that may as well as it should. My Mom knew immediately when I was getting into trouble.
They ended up being together as a couple for over a year, and he treated our daughter like a queen. We have gone through the whole high school dating situation with our older son now 25 and currently with our daughter 17. She positioned herself to know all about what my brother and I were in to and put a lot of effort into knowing our friends and our surroundings out of the home. Then allow a little freedom when the freedom and trust is earned. Honestly when it comes to sex, a 16 year-old boy is no different than a 14, 15, or 17 year-old! Allow it, but like you are doing now.
Yes, she will balk and cringe at the conversation, but that is part of her choosing a physical relationship. I consider myself very lucky for having that stability through my adolescence. What do you know about him and his reputation? I have had a hard time with this myself but i have been very open with the both of them, he has not been allowed over her fathers house or her mothers house, they have all just really found out, I knew a month before any of them, the father and the mother both had cows, and i had an elephant. I think you are being responsible. Is it wrong to let her hang out with him at the mall, see a movie or just have him come over for a few hours supervised? So, I hope you feel reassured that you're absolutely doing the right thing! My husband, who is her father thinks I am out of my mind too and way to easy on her. We do not promise accuracy, completeness, or usefulness of any advice and are not responsible for content.