The general perception of marriage amongst the millennials is that it clips our wings. Our parents are kind of right, you know, when they say that loneliness eventually gets to you at some point or the other. I am trying here and hope it helps. Being married has its own perks though, but the thought of losing oneself in the plethora of marital responsibilities is what scares many men. Marriage is that one word which is enough to scare a full-grown adult man especially the ones with commitment issues. Plus let's not forget that weddings have become even more expensive than ever before. This does not necessarily mean that married people have a dull sex life.
The person that wants or demands you to fit into their box instead of appreciating you for the person you are. It is not that these men are afraid of marriage, its just he might be afraid of marrying you. Yes girls are materialistic and selfish but there's a proviso here, it doesn't pertain to Nigerian girls alone. But in some cases, this archaic mindset persists with some men who are concerned about increased expenses due to an additional person joining the household. It usually happens when people refuse to be awake of their faults and continue sticking to their guns. .
But he would never want you to turn into another woman like his mother and especially not like your mother. Nigerian girls are materialistic and selfish. There is also a similar calculation for moments when his needs are not being met. Past experience: This is one of the most common reasons behind a man's thought about marriage. Unfortunately, between two stools you fall to the ground. Yes, there is such a term, and it is most commonly seen in men.
Being with one person is something that seems unnatural to most black men. Being married means tagging along with a lady who will influence a lot of decisions of his life. Then one day he may notice something that will change his calculation of how his life will be with you in the future. Also, with divorce rates shooting up, we're losing our faith in the concept of happily-ever-after. However, when you start spending more time with each other you realize the flaws and shortcomings.
This story is deeper than you're seeing right now, I believe. According to them, modern divorce statistics are very high, and it is very difficult to enter into something that should last for a lifetime, just for it to end. They change according to the bonding between the partners. All we hear in the news is about which famous celebrity is getting divorced for the fourth time. Motherhood is going to bring a serious changes in her, and his thought process follows that she may transform into that generic cranky wife, which no man desires.
They are afraid of divorce Yes ladies, some men are very terrified of divorce. You've probably heard most of them yourself. It is something I have wanted my entire life. Above all, may peace be yours. The thought of splitting their prized possessions with a woman is enough to scare a grown-up man to the bone.
If you're living together, if you have a family and if you have financial commitments, you're bound in the eyes of the law anyway. Set aside presumptions and preconceived ideas about men and commitment. To get him to want to get married you need to learn how to show him what an amazing future he will have and how all his calculations are wrong. There is a certain security and stability in marriage that no other relationship can provide. He slows the idea of marriage down.
On the other hand, if he tells you it's because he's scared you'll turn into his mother, or that the sex will go south, tell him to get the hell out of there. The Change In Life Marriage brings a change, a husband is a big stepup from a boyfriend. He sounds like an a-hole who doesn't deserve a beautiful loving woman like you! It will hurt to lose someone that you made such a commitment to and plus, getting a divorce is really expensive! After marriage the woman might become complacent. I'm a 29 year old female, college graduate, and firmly situated in a great job. If you stick around you're betting on his ability to change. I was raised by my parents who got married in 1954 and are still married to this day. As much as a woman wants that all encompassing love, so also do men.