As it says in Proverbs: Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? We as women have an incredible power to seduce. But it enforces this idea that anything outside of the masculine norm is just bad. Even if it is not your intention to arouse lustful thoughts in the opposite sex, if you are flippant about your physical interaction with guys, you risk leading them to stumble sexually. This new video will absolutely garner many different reactions. What do you say to people who claim this video -- and other videos in this series -- are silly, frivolous or unimportant? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? Even if your standards seem old fashioned, prude, or extreme to others, why should that bother you? Because we are all gay to varying degrees but our ids wil usually only allow some of it through the sub-conscious to manifest into conscious thought or action.
I remember hearing the story of my great-grandmother in the carriage with her groom-to-be on the way to their wedding. But frivolous and unimportant, on that we have to disagree. Physical touch between men and women is very powerful, and is not to be treated flippantly. It may seem that all guys enjoy girls who carelessly offer their bodies to be casually touched, but Christ-built guys are fascinated, intrigued, and captivated by women who are mysterious and guarded. The reactions have varied from video to video, and many of the comments show the extremely varying ways we look at men and women as it relates to sexuality.
And even after you are in a relationship headed toward marriage, it is always healthy to be extra-cautious and guarded in the area of physical touch. So what kind of physical interaction is appropriate with a guy? Need to leave something to do for later, if you know what I mean. This man would be fired for participating and being identified in the video because the image it sends about him is too controversial. Casual touch and sensual behavior may be treated lightly among modern Christians. We cant admit this stuff to each other or to even ourselves. It's nice to have a guys perspective on it.
If you touch a penis and you like it? The fear society inspires by saying that men must have a perfectly unmarred heterosexually-masculine image prevents people from even beginning to understand not only our differences, but many of our similarities. Did they think it was hilarious or pointless? He admitted to me that he told his guy friends how hot he thinks I am and that his buddies told him they agree. Do guys talk with their buddies about women they don't like? They are another part of a larger conversation pertaining to gender and sexuality. He hasn't come right out and told me he likes me so. Seemed like he was feeling me out for a date.
The Huffington Post: Where did the idea for the video come from? How hard was it to find straight-identified men who would agree to be in the video? I kind of know deep down where it will lead but just not sure I want to do that this early in the game. There was no difference in these videos except that there was a gender reversal. The only thing that matters is protecting the glory of your King and the sacredness of your future marriage. There should be no shame in curiosity, education, and being yourself. What do you think this says about our culture and its approach to sexuality and masculinity? What happens when men who identify as straight are given the opportunity to touch another man's penis for the first time? The statement comes from the reaction of the viewers. Warrior-Poets have far more respect for a woman who is guarded and discreet than for one who is aggressive and cavalier with her body. I know this guy who always touches me in one way or another.
We want people to enjoy them and laugh and see things from another perspective, but as a series, we hope it challenges the collective perspective of the viewers about gender and sexuality and makes them ask themselves what truly is the difference between any of these videos? Lay back on the couch and relax. . What statement are you trying to make about how our society views different body parts, masculinity and sexuality? Should I ask him out or wait on him to get the guts? It may be completely normal for every other Christian girl you know to be physical when interacting with guys. I just can't get him or the stuff he does to me out of my head! We asked about 40 guys, friends, acquaintances -- Craigslist! Started as a friendly bump to my shoulder to say hi, then a rub to my shoulder, then quick pat on my back, then lingering touch to the middle of my back when he sees me. It was very difficult to find straight guys who were comfortable participating. I just don't want to spill my guts to him about my feelings for him only to realize that I was reading into all of this and he was just being friendly.
We hope they take a minute to watch and listen and think about how it makes them feel. If we interact with a guy in a sensual, flirtatious way; if we use our eyes, words, and body language to temp him sexually; and if we are haphazard about physical touch, we are leading him to stumble. I believe that the casual, careless way that girls interact physically with guys is yet another indication of the decline of feminine dignity and mystique. Some of them have to do with 2 and 3 below. We had hoped for four men in the video but only found three that were willing to participate.
One of these straight-identifying men said that his face had to be blurred out or he could lose his job for being in the video. Now he tweeks my stomach quickly when he is joking with me. This is certainly a visual indicator of sexual anticipation and a biological excitement trigger. Do men ever act like this when they aren't interested in a girl or is this stuff a sure shot sign he likes me? Our Maker designed physical touch between men and women to be the catalyst for sexual intimacy, and when that fire is ignited out of context, it leads to harm. Told me he was going to a party and if I liked this place they were going to. Ok, I saw him last night and he was Mr charming as usual, complimented me, smiles, deep looks into my eyes. Pinching, touching, and even sucking on erect nipples is a natural and desired reaction by a man.