If anyone has any advice besides keep fighting, will be great. Last year we had to stay with my family. At first I thought she had fallen asleep because she sounded tired frm the night before but again my gut instinct told me otherwise. But he also went to the strip club the night before and is secretive with his phone. I let go multiple incidents and then slowly the lies about drinking. Did you just want to come rant about how bad this guy is? Though most people here have been expressing concern with porn and drug addictions my husband does not have that problem. But in the end, I found out he was lying to me for 3+ years of our relationship, and it just broke me.
But he says he will contest a divorce. The reason is not to hurt us even though they dont know that theyre already hurting us or they do it for themselves for you not to leave him; he doesnt want you to split up with him because of the wrong thing he did. You only want friends that lift you up. Is that a normal behavior for a man at 61? How can you rebuild trust when your spouse has lied to you? My husband has never gone out and spent more than 50 without telling me first, so that I am thankful for. My husband has been lieing to me he has stolen from me and he has lost my house that I lived in for 30 years.
Sorry, and I so enjoy many of your articles and books. To Get Out Of Doing Things Men will lie to get out of doing undesirable tasks, such as household chores or errands. I am so happy to find this article. If you have to lie for sex, then maybe you need to fall back from it. I talked to him about how i felt it was not safe and that i feel he is giving his son mixed messages about it being ok to get drunk n drive to boot. His constant response to any inquiry is , he forgot, I don't know, I did not realize, maybe, but I am not sure.
For example, he says he is playing golf with his buddies and got the round for free. I asked her to dinner and she said she would love to go. Same goes for random defensive outbursts around certain questions or topics. I think that it would not be unbiblical to separate. Reasons Spouses Lie There are many reasons your spouse may be dishonest with you.
I am not saying that you are doing any of this but its just a thought since I know that we women tend to be a little tight on the rains at times. We get them on the phone, he talks and says he was there. The one who was sweet and kind, smart and beautiful, and freaky in the sheets. A Godly perspective is to respond as Christ would and the first action of Jesus is always forgiveness. I am so glad you and your girls are away from him. He will disregard the feelings of others, and justify his actions by saying that he has to look out for himself.
It looks on the surface that they are just trying to avoid confrontation or an argument, so to do that they slither their way out of it. Why would be so welcoming and non-judgmental about this? Yes, he was still on the dating site. We argued and argues but he seemed as if he was right wat he had done. This incident with her coworker happened on Thanksgiving night. The kids will be devastated if he leaves but I just feel like I can not keep doing the lies.
After I realized that if I would just let him be an adult then that is when he started to let me in on things. After hounding him about it I get the response of I just wanted to see who was working. She has crushed me beyond all hope, i am an empty shell now who is trying to get back on with starting a new life rebuilding relations with my children, they keep me going. Most people who are comfortable in a relationship are open to sharing details of their lives. He tells me he's trying to stop and he's really sorry but it keeps happening.
If i dont leave soon he will kill me with the lies. I think that means more than just to be cheated. The only problem in him is he wants to keep each and every person happy. I woke up one day and something told me to check. She vehemently denies it when I confront her.
Next he messaged saying he lied and that he is not drinking but no apology. Everyone thinks we have the perfect marriage. It seems like one thing after another. A liar and a cheater seldom char their patterns of behavior. At business functions he carries me on his arm like a toy dog. It may work sometimes, but typically it will work against him. She said that she didn't want a relationship with anyone when she left me, but I didn't believe her.